When dealing with someone who is highly self-entitled, it can be challenging to determine if they truly deserve your love and attention. Fortunately, there are some telltale signs that will enable you to determine if this individual is suitable for your life.
Entitlement is a trait that can have detrimental effects on all areas of life, such as relationships and career prospects. Fortunately, with the proper support and effort, it can be overcome.
1. They believe they are better than everyone else
Have you ever noticed someone thinking they’re better than everyone else? Chances are they possess a sense of entitlement – an attitude which suggests the world owes them something, such as money, love or promotion at work. Entitlement can manifest in various forms: believing the world owes them something; whether it be material things like money or love, or an advancement at work.
People with an attitude of entitlement often behave narcissistically and selfishly. They believe they deserve a life filled with contentment, even if it means hurting others in the process.
This attitude is often caused by deep-seated self-esteem issues, leaving them feeling insecure in their own skin. They fear that if they don’t act as if they are better than you, people will see how weak and unintelligent they really are.
Some individuals with a sense of entitlement may boast about their superior intelligence or try to convince you they are older and wiser than you. This attitude, commonly referred to as the superiority complex, can be one of the hallmarks of narcissism.
Psychotherapist Shagoon Maurya notes that some individuals hold themselves above reproach and will always do what is right, even if it’s wrong. This belief can lead them to be highly manipulative and controlling in nature.
If you notice this trait in friends and family members, consider working with a therapist or life coach. It can be beneficial to have someone to discuss how best to handle this person in your life as well as uncover the underlying causes of their superiority complex.
You’ll likely observe this attitude in them when they demand a great deal of attention from you and require that you validate their success constantly. This behavior indicates they have an inferiority complex, needing constant affirmation from others to feel good about themselves.
This kind of toxic and narcissistic behavior can do lasting damage to relationships. Therefore, you should never allow yourself to become complicit in such behaviour.
2. They have double standards
Double standards refer to a form of discrimination in which people judge or treat others differently based on their gender, sexual orientation, race, ethnicity, religion, age, socioeconomic status and other characteristics. This kind of prejudice is commonly referred to as bias or favoritism and generally seen as unethical by most.
Double standards are perhaps the most well-known example of discrimination that exists in society today. This practice of double standards dates back thousands of years and still persists today.
Another example is the stereotyping of women in some cultures, who are believed to not be allowed certain clothes or alcohol. This double standard can be extremely stressful for them to live with and lead to physical and psychological harm.
Double standards refers to someone who believes they are better than everyone else and does not accept other people’s views. They may attempt to manipulate others in order to get what they desire, leading to conflict in their personal lives.
If you find that someone in your life has a tendency towards double standards, it is essential to reach out and let them know about the problem. Not only will this help them recognize that their treatment is unjust, but it also demonstrates your concern for them and desire to resolve the situation.
Ask them to explain their reasoning for applying the double standard, and you may even be able to detect if it’s an attempt at power over you or someone else. Doing this will enable you to determine whether they are intentionally or unintentionally employing double standards, as well as determine if they’re being honest with you.
Double standards do not make you narcissist or selfish; they simply indicate an underlying belief or bias which may lead to unjustified behaviors. It is up to you to challenge these notions, challenge yourself to do better, and improve yourself as a result.
3. They don’t take responsibility for their actions
Sense of entitlement is the belief that one deserves certain advantages or special treatment. It can be a form of mental illness with potentially negative repercussions.
People with a sense of entitlement often have an inward-looking perspective and lack consideration for others’ feelings or needs. In extreme cases, they may suffer from mental disorders like narcissistic personality disorder.
They may often lie, break the law and manipulate others to obtain what they desire in life. Additionally, they become apathetic when things don’t go their way.
People who fail to accept responsibility for their errors can have a detrimental effect on the relationships they have with other people. If someone consistently makes errors in social settings and never owns up, others might start to avoid them or even start distance themselves from them.
Accepting responsibility can help people develop stronger connections with others and become more productive in their daily lives. It also gives them the chance to heal from past errors and move forward instead of staying stuck.
Admitting that you have made an error or bad decision can be difficult, but it is necessary in order to move on with your life.
People who are unwilling to own up to their mistakes often do so out of a fear of being judged or put down. Therefore, it’s so important that you always demonstrate the capacity for taking responsibility for your decisions.
If you are having trouble making changes in your life, professional assistance may be needed. A therapist or counselor can help identify the source of the problems and offer suggestions on how to make improvements for the better.
To break the cycle of self-entitlement, it’s essential to be aware of your emotions and communicate them with those around you. Although this can be challenging to do on your own, the sooner you do it the faster your life will start to move in a positive direction and break free of its entitlement trap.
4. They blame others for their failures
People with an attitude of entitlement will always find a way to blame someone else for their failures, even when it is their own fault. It serves as an escape from responsibility and serves as an outlet for anger or feelings of stress and discomfort.
Blaming others for your mistakes is not only a poor strategy, it can also damage the relationships with those around you. It leads to feelings of powerlessness as you will be unable to solve the issues at hand and prevent negotiation with other people – an essential aspect of communication with others.
If you find yourself frequently blaming others for your mistakes, it may be time to investigate why. Reach out to a therapist or counselor with your worries; they can help identify the underlying issues that have caused you to feel entitled and may provide solutions.
Another reason people tend to assign blame for their mistakes is that it gives them a boost of self-worth. They believe that by finding an explanation for why something went wrong, they will feel better about themselves and their potential for success.
The problem with this method of dealing is that it does not encourage you to learn from mistakes and develop skills for success. Furthermore, it could potentially sabotage relationships with those around you by insinuating they doubt your capacity for self-management.
Powerful and manipulative behavior is often indicative of entitlement; if you see someone acting this way, take note that they will do anything to attain what they desire – including sabotaging any efforts made by others to bring about their desires.
A study revealed that people who read about a governor blaming others for their mistakes were twice as likely to do the same when reading about a director who took responsibility for the failure – an effect known as blame contagion.