As a hockey mom, you understand the sacrifices required of you. From spending entire weekends in ice rinks to transporting your son as far as Sweden to watch him play hockey – you know the sacrifices are immense.
Karen Wallace was also a champion for female hockey, taking her campaign nationwide during the 1980s. Today, girls can lace up their skates and participate in hockey without discrimination thanks to her efforts.
2. Ask for help.
Once we become frustrated with someone for an extended period of time, they often seem much worse than they actually are. Stepping back can help. Remember that although Karen may be annoying and unkind at times, but that she may simply need professional guidance. For instance, perhaps she dislikes dentists or pigeons or has an embarrassing nervous giggling tic that causes her to cackle constantly; these could all be issues she should seek help for from an occupational therapist.
3. Don’t be a doormat.
Hockey moms need to present an assertive image in the public eye. That does not equate to dumb, weak or unable-to-stand-up for themselves. Denise notes that George’s behaviour caused more pain than early mornings or car spaghetti; even small acts could set him off into an angry tirade — such as going for a run! Additionally, George had multiple affairs.
4. Don’t blame yourself.
If you find yourself engulfed in an angry Karen hockey mom episode, remember it is not always your fault. Sometimes the pressures of life or frustrations of everyday can overwhelm us all and cause our tempers to flare. Take some time out for yourself before reacting; take deep breaths if necessary before taking further steps; if need be there are numerous online and physical resources available that may assist with that as well.
5. Ask for advice.
People might advise ignoring Karen, but I believe a more intelligent strategy may be to show some sympathy. She obviously has real issues – including constant sniffling and strange beliefs like saying dentists give cavities – that make socializing with people challenging. Plus it must be daunting being saddled with being a hockey mom: early mornings, car spaghetti runs, tournament hopping.
Sounds like she is anxious about returning to work; so when she does arrive back, perhaps showing some kindness by greeting her warmly and offering assurance would show that you’re willing to move past past disagreements and build stronger relationships in the future.
